Tuesday, July 13, 2010

Low Self Esteem

If you have friend struggling with low self esteem issues , you know first hand that it can be difficult convincing them that they are worth something . You see how they struggle and hurt and the unhealthy results that follow (i.e. promiscuouity , self injury , eating disorder, etc.) and it is hard to feel like you can help them . And sometimes you can't without professional help , BUT sometimes you can .

Let your friend know how special they are to you , do something that will let them know that you REALLY do care . Most people with low self esteem feel that people around them are insincere in their feelings toward them and constantly wonder if people actually love them . Which is why it is important that you show them your true feelings .

Don't judge your friend by what they do , because more often than not , its for attention . Let them know how you feel about it because they WANT someone to stop them and tell them that yes , you did notice what they did , and yes it scared you/ you thought it was wrong . Don't judge them by how they dress either , that is one of the biggest insecurities for a person with low self esteem . How they dress gives them a sense of power and if that is taken away then they may lash out .

Be interested in what they're interested in and I don't mean faking it so you can talk about what you want to talk about . Really listen , make posotive comments .

Be honest with them , if they ask for advice , be straighforward .

Don't indulge in 'fattalk' or be negative about your looks or your friends looks .

Compliment your friend , not just on looks but on things that they do well :)

Maybe even do something good for the community together , it will make you and your friend feel like a better person for doing it .


Low self esteem is something difficult that many kids and teens struggle with and it can be a tough thing to face down . Just by being there , you can improve your friends self esteem . But if your friend has serious issues or you feel that he or she may need serious , professional help , but don't be afraid to get it for your friend . Stand tall . Pass The Help .

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