If there is one thing that I have noticed in today's world , it is that women are portrayed as fair game for sexual misadventures and are especially depicted as such in the media . Flick through nearly any channel , and it will show girls dressing too sexy or scantily clad in order to gain the attention of men , often times sacrificing personal beliefs and being put in uncomfortable and innapropriate situations . Yet , sadly , the influence these girls in the media are giving out is a demeaning one that teaches women and young girls alike that it is ok to sacrifice how comfortable you are to gain the attention of men , the jelousy of other girls , and to feel "sexy" .
When asked , most girls would say that it is important to feel sexy , some would even say it is ok to sacrifice being comfortable if the gain was "feeling better about your body" . But if we are being honest , this sacrifice can be very damamging to many girls' self esteem and cause them to lose so much self respect . Now , for just a moment , imagine how most girls struggling with their self esteem issues already , feel . They do not feel pretty or beautiful or special . Then suddenly , the magic trick to instant attention and adoration appears : tou can dress sexily and be promiscous .
But why , ones has to ask , is this so important to girls and women everywhere ? Why would they need the attention of others to feel pretty ? That's just it : they need others to surround them and tell them that they're beautiful and to affirm them . Yet , most girls don't know how to achieve this affirmation by themselves , so they look in the wrong plces for affirmation that they are , in fact , pretty . Although , once they turn to promiscuity and too sexy clothes , it can actually make them feel worse about themselves and soon others will also begin to treat them poorly . This promiscuity and trashy dress will NOT give these grls and women the attention they want and need .
If women do truly aim to find this respect , they first must respect themselves . Have personal values that you believe in and can uphold . Don't dress or act in ways that you think will win you attention . Don't be promiscuous because you think you can earn someone's love or respect that way , because you cannot . Dress in a classy way that shows your body , be polite and kind to others . Instead of being promiscuous , show you have class and have only one oerson that you love and that you truly know loves you . If you respect yourself , others will respect you .
To any boys or men reading this article , it is time for a lesson on respecting women . Women are sensitive creatures with emotions and feelings just like you . You don't like being used , so don't use them! Playing games with a woman is down right rude and twisted and you will never achieve anything by hurting her . If you do the unthinkable and HIT a WOMAN , you are disrespecting her in one of the worst possible ways . How can you possibly expect her to respect you , if you do not respect her ? Women are not just there fo your sexual overtures , women want to be loved and appreciated , not come on to by someone ignorant to their feelings .
The point is , mutual respect is important . Women need to respect others and themselves before they gain respect , yet in return , women need to be respected in order to respect themselves . DOn't be ignorant to someones feelings . Respect yourself . Pass The Help .
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ReplyDeleteIt really is sad how women treat themselves nowadays. This gives me hope that women, no matter how old or young they might be, will really understand that respect is really important. This article is written very well. And you're completey right about all of it. Including the bit about how men should treat women. Part of the problem might now just be men or low self esteem, though. Some girls with this issue have problems at home. They may want attention from their parents, or maybe they just want to make their parents mad or embarrass them. It's really hard getting to these girls because when you tell them what they're doing isn't right, they might get mad. Even when you're just trying to help them, they claim you're being hateful, or jealous of the attention they get from the boys. When it's not the type of attention that any woman should really want. Some girls dress inappropriately and show off their bodies because they want to fit in with other girls, or feel cool. They might just want to grow up too fast. Dressing and acting this way is really dangerous. Some men will see you and automatically want something, and will hurt you, or force you for things that they want. It sends the wrong message out to people. Every single girl is beautiful and smart and good at something that others may not be. But when a girl acts with no respect toward herself then others will think that she isn't very special, and that she's just there to satisfy men when they need something. not there to love or cherish. it's sad because every single woman on earth is special. This is a really good post, I hope that others will see this and understand that respect is part of a healthy life style. And see that acting promiscuous and wearing revealing clothes won't raise their self-esteem. Because then they'll be getting the wrong attention. For being something that they aren't. Good job you guys. <3
ReplyDeleteI am so glad that you commented on this article because Ireally felt that this was an important issue that men and women need to hear . And you are absolutely right about everything you said , you are very insightful and the world needs more women like you .
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